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A group of people in a bar with concerned expressions on their faces.
A group of people in a bar with concerned expressions on their faces.

You’re in a busy bar after work. A man walks up to the woman next to you and starts talking. Suddenly he’s putting his hand up her skirt. She tries to move away and is clearly uncomfortable.

This is sexual assault and it’s illegal.

How could you help stop it?

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Say something

If you feel safe doing so, you could say something direct to the person being abusive – keep it short and to the point like ‘Leave her alone’ or ‘You need to stop doing that’.

Tell someone (icon)

Tell someone

You could tell the bar staff what you’ve witnessed and ask them to tell the man to stop it, or call security to kick them out of the bar.

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Offer support

You could give support to the victim and ask if she’s OK. You could capture what’s happening on your phone or you could ask the victim if she would like you to help report it. If other people have seen his behaviour, you can work together to intervene.

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Provide a diversion

You could strike up conversation with the victim, moving in between him and the woman. You could ask her what time it is or pretend you know her. Or you could spill your drink to create a minor commotion.

Explore another scenario

Explore the scenarios below to see how you could put these ways to intervene safely into practice.

Two men and three woman are in a kitchen diner. They have expressions of concern and disbelief on their faces in reaction to something they've witnessed.
Two men and three woman are in a kitchen diner. They have expressions of concern and disbelief on their faces in reaction to something they've witnessed.

Controlling and coercive behaviour

You’ve noticed your friend becoming more withdrawn since she started dating her partner. She rarely goes out anymore and constantly puts herself down.

A group of people on a bus, looking to camera with concerned expressions.
A group of people on a bus, looking to camera with concerned expressions.

Catcalling

You’re on the bus home from work. You see a young woman being catcalled and harassed by a man.

Four male students in a university classroom, looking to camera with disgusted expressions.
Four male students in a university classroom, looking to camera with disgusted expressions.

Revenge porn

Your friend is uploading nudes of his ex-girlfriend on social media to deliberately hurt and embarrass her. 

Reporting abuse

You have every right to report abuse to the police if you see or experience it, if you are a bystander make sure you ask the victim what they want you to do.

More on reporting abuse