Beth i'w wneud pan fyddwch chi'n gweld neu'n clywed cam-drin

Mae llawer ohonom wedi gweld rhyw fath o ymddygiad difrïol a niweidiol yn erbyn menywod a merched. Ond faint ohonom sydd wedi gwybod sut i ymyrryd?

Mor aml gallwn ni edrych yn ôl ar sefyllfa a wnaeth i ni deimlo’n anghyfforddus a dymuno ein bod wedi gwneud rhywbeth.

Gallwn ni atal cam-drin trwy beidio â gadael i bobl ddianc ag ymddygiad niweidiol – waeth pa mor ‘ddibwys’ y gall ymddangos. Po fwyaf y byddant yn dianc ag ef, y mwyaf normal y daw. Mae cam-drin yn erbyn menywod a merched yn parhau. Mae merched a merched yn parhau i gael eu niweidio.

Felly beth allwn ni ei wneud?

How to help if you suspect domestic abuse

If you’re worried someone you know might be experiencing domestic abuse, you don’t need to have proof. Trust your instincts. Let them know you’re there if they ever want to talk and give them space to share things in their own time.

Avoid pushing for details or telling them what to do – that can mirror the control they’re already experiencing. If they do open up, listen, believe them and remind them it’s not their fault.  

Encourage them to speak to domestic abuse services, who can explain their options and help them plan safely.

If you think they’re in immediate danger, call 999. 

How to help if someone’s being stalked

If someone tells you they are being stalked, give them space to talk about what’s been going on and what they’re worried about.

Encourage them to keep any messages, screenshots or details of unwanted contact, and support them to report incidents to the police when they feel ready. Remind them they don’t have to deal with it alone – stalking charities and the police can offer advice and protection.

If you ever think they might be at immediate risk, call 999. 

Help stop abuse in public places

Many of us have seen some form of abuse against women and girls in public, but it can be difficult to know whether to intervene. Some people worry they’ve misread the situation and could make things worse. Others may be nervous on how best to intervene and support someone. If you’re unsure about whether to intervene, here are some key signs to look out for.  

  • Does the person look uncomfortable or upset?
  • Are they trying to escape or move away?
  • Do they seem frightened?
  • When you make eye contact, do they respond in a way that makes you think they want help? 

How to step in safely

Intervening doesn’t have to be dramatic or confrontational. Even small acts of recognition and support can help stop abuse. It’s important to assess the situation first to make sure you are stepping in safely.

Here are four simple ways to help you step in safely, depending on the situation, where you are and who’s involved – just think STOP. 

  • You can show your disapproval at what is going on for example, by not laughing and saying, 'I don’t think that’s funny'. Or you could be more direct, if you feel it’s safe to do so, by saying it’s unacceptable and tell them to stop.

  • You could tell someone in charge, like the bar staff if you’re in a pub or club, Human Resources (HR) if you’re at work, or the train guard or bus driver if you’re on public transport. You could also tell another member of the public or a passer-by and see if they’re willing to help – working together can be a safer, more effective way to intervene. It is important to check in with the victim on who they want to tell, or if they want to call the police. 

  • If you feel safe, try to support the victim without drawing attention or escalating the situation. You can ask the victim if they’re OK. You could capture what’s happening on your phone and ask if they want the footage to report the incident, and you could offer to help report it. You could also help others already giving support. If it’s someone you know, you could check in with them when they are alone and offer to help or support them to report it if they want. For more guidance on the support options available, visit our Get Support page.

  • Sometimes what's best in the moment is creating a distraction, giving the person being targeted a chance to move away or giving others the opportunity to get help. You could strike up conversation with the victim, e.g. ask for directions, or where the next stop is on the bus, or pretend you know them. If you’re at work, you could make up an excuse to speak to them about an unrelated task. You could also try dropping something nearby or creating some other minor commotion.

Depending on the situation, where you are or who’s involved, you can use just one or a combination of these tactics. By standing against all forms of abuse and holding perpetrators accountable, we can create a society where women and girls are safe.

If you think somebody is in immediate danger, call 999.

Profwch eich hun: sut allech chi helpu?

Edrychwch ar y senarios isod i weld sut allech chi roi'r ffyrdd yma o ymyrryd yn ddiogel ar waith.

Two men and three woman are in a kitchen diner. They have expressions of concern and disbelief on their faces in reaction to something they've witnessed.
Two men and three woman are in a kitchen diner. They have expressions of concern and disbelief on their faces in reaction to something they've witnessed.

Ymddygiad sy’n rheoli drwy orfodaeth

Mae’ch ffrind wedi mynd â’i phen yn ei phlu ers iddi gwrdd â'i phartner newydd, ac rydych chi'n meddwl ei fod e’n ei rheoli hi.

Sut allech chi helpu?
Four male students in a university classroom, looking to camera with disgusted expressions.
Four male students in a university classroom, looking to camera with disgusted expressions.

Pornograffi dial

Mae eich ffrind yn uwchlwytho lluniau noeth o'i gyn-gariad i'r cyfryngau cymdeithasol i’w brifo ac i godi cywilydd arni'n fwriadol.

Sut allech chi helpu?
Group of people in a bar looking to camera with concerned expressions.
Group of people in a bar looking to camera with concerned expressions.

Cyffwrdd digroeso

Rydych chi’n gweld dyn yn byseddu menyw mewn bar. Mae hi'n ceisio symud i ffwrdd ac mae’n amlwg ei bod yn anghyffyrddus.

Sut allech chi helpu?
A group of people on a bus, looking to camera with concerned expressions.
A group of people on a bus, looking to camera with concerned expressions.

Gweiddi’n frwnt

Ar y bws adref, rydych chi’n gweld dyn yn gweiddi’n frwnt ar fenyw ifanc. Mae e'n gwneud sylwadau rhywiol ac yn symud yn agos iawn ati.

Sut allech chi helpu?

Have these scenarios made you think?

If you can think of a situation when your behaviour – whether deliberate or not – has upset, embarrassed, hurt, controlled or coerced someone, be honest with yourself. It’s the first step to making a change for the better.

Need support?

If you’re experiencing abuse, or have been through it before, you don’t have to face it alone. Support is available – talking to someone can make a big difference.

Get support

Reporting abuse

If you’ve been affected by abuse, there are ways to report it. Find out more about how to report abuse. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 999.

Reporting abuse