Abuse. Know the facts.

It includes emotional abuse, coercive control, financial abuse, sexual harassment, stalking and online abuse. These behaviours can be just as damaging, even when there are no physical injuries. 

Although we hear about abuse by strangers, abuse is more likely to involve someone you know, like a partner, ex, family member or colleague.

It happens across all ages, backgrounds, and identities. But some women and girls, including those from minoritised communities, disabled women, and LGBTQ+ women, may find it harder to access support. 

Abuse happens because someone chooses to exert power and control over another person. It’s always the responsibility of the person causing harm, never the person experiencing it.

Most victims do not report abuse due to fear, stigma and shame. False allegations are very uncommon, yet this misconception can stop victims coming forward.

Online abuse including digital harassment, threats, image‑based abuse, stalking and coercive control can all have a serious and lasting impact. What happens online is real, and so is the harm.

People open up about abuse in their own time. It might be straight away, or it might take months or even years. Fear, shock or not feeling ready can all play a part. But whenever a survivor chooses to speak up, it’s valid and important.

Leaving isn’t simple. People might be scared for their safety, have no money, feel isolated or worry things could get worse if they try to leave. It’s not about “choosing” to stay – it’s about what feels possible and safe. This is often misunderstood, which leads to people being judged or blamed for not leaving.

Worrying about needing proof can stop people from reporting abuse. If you’ve experienced it, you can go to the police and tell them what’s happened, even if you don’t have any evidence. They can support you and gather what’s needed.

People who commit abuse sometimes blame underlying challenges, such as mental health issues, past trauma, or issues with alcohol or drug use. However, abuse is a choice. While these factors can make things worse, they do not cause abuse and do not excuse it.