Intimate image abuse
Intimate image abuse
Your friend is sharing nudes of his ex in a group chat…
It’s late. You’re in bed scrolling on your phone.
Your friend sends a message to the group chat saying “Get a load of this…”
Up pops a picture of his ex. Naked.
Some friends start replying.
Laughing and joking about her.
Think this is abuse?
Select an answer
Correct It’s illegal to share nude photos of someone else without their consent, and can have a lasting impact on the victim. Your friend could end up in prison for two years and on the Sex Offenders Register.
Wrong It’s illegal to share nude photos of someone else without their consent, and can have a lasting impact on the victim. Your friend could end up in prison for two years and on the Sex Offenders Register.
Say something
Message your friend separately and tell them that what they’re doing isn’t okay. You don't want your friend to break the law and do something he will regret. Tell them it's illegal and they should delete the photos.
Tell someone
If your friend refuses to delete the photo, you could report them anonymously.
It’s not easy to report a friend but it’s important to remember that his behaviour is unacceptable, illegal and could have a lasting impact on his ex. You can contact the Revenge Porn Helpline on 03456 000 459, or by email.
Offer support
If your friend refuses to delete the photo, you could tell his ex what he’s doing and offer to report it.
It might be hard to go behind your friend’s back but what he’s doing could affect his ex for the rest of her life. By letting her know what he’s doing and offering to share the evidence if she wants to report it, you’re supporting a victim of intimate image abuse.
Provide a diversion
Changing the subject in the group chat could stop the situation from escalating, but sharing nude photos of someone else without their consent is illegal, and ignoring the messages could be seen as condoning the behaviour. You don’t want your friend to break the law and do something he will regret, so there might be a better way to intervene safely.
What would you do to help?
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Have these scenarios made you think?
If you can think of a situation when your behaviour - whether deliberate or not - has upset, embarrassed, hurt, controlled or coerced someone, be honest with yourself. It’s the first step to making a change for the better.