Controlling or coercive behaviour
You’ve noticed your friend becoming more withdrawn since she started dating her partner. She rarely goes out anymore and constantly puts herself down. You meet her and her partner at a friend’s birthday party and you overhear her partner laughing at her, telling her she looks ridiculous, that no one wants her there and she had better not embarrass him.
This is controlling and coercive behaviour. It’s harmful and it can be a criminal offence.
Explore another scenario
Explore the scenarios below to see how you could put these ways to intervene safely into practice.
On the bus home, you see a young woman being catcalled by a man. He's making sexual comments and moving really close to her.
Your friend is uploading nudes of his ex-girlfriend on to social media to deliberately hurt and embarrass her.
You see a man groping a woman in a bar. She tries to move away and is clearly uncomfortable.
You have every right to report abuse to the police if you see or experience it. If you are a bystander, make sure you ask the victim what they want you to do.